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THERAPY FOR MEN

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Suffering in silence no longer has to be your way of life.

Is there an invisible weight on you that you can’t shake? 

Are you feeling out of control lately? 

Do you feel like you have no one to turn to for help?

This doesn’t have to be your life anymore. Emotions or past experiences shouldn’t control you, nor be overwhelming to know what to do with. You don’t have to figure this all out on your own. I’m here to help. 

I’ve worked with a lot of men. They all came to me looking for help with different issues, but every single one had one thing in common: he felt overwhelmed by not knowing how to regulate his emotions from past trauma and experiences, and this was now negatively impacting his current daily life.

I repeat, every one of my male clients has struggled with processing emotions to the point it was wreaking havoc in their work and/or home life. 

I’ve helped men that were dealing with…

  • Past trauma and PTSD
  • Depression
  • Anxiety
  • Relationship issues
  • Regulating emotions
  • Substance issues
  • Life transitions
  • Fulfillment in career
  • Family dynamics and past childhood abuse 

But no matter what they were dealing with in life, the underlying issue was being able to face what they were feeling. 

Regulating emotions shouldn’t feel like you’re playing a professional sport you didn’t train for.

Now here’s the downfall to avoiding emotions and past negative experiences: it’s an all or nothing game. If you try to dim the negative emotions that are too overwhelming to deal with, the same happens to the positive ones. 

Just ask yourself…

  • Have you been feeling like you enjoy things less or it takes a lot more effort to engage with people you care about? 
  • Have you started to turn to substances to try to help you be able to have a fun time? 
  • Do you not know how to get control back in your life, or even know where to start to fix it? 
  • Are you here because someone complains about your anger or inability to emotionally connect with them? 
  • When situations get too emotionally charged do you feel yourself checking out?

This doesn’t have to stay your norm. There’s a logical reason for your current emotional state. 

So if you want… 

  • More happiness, joy, excitement, love, passion, drive, hope, and more 
  • Healthy and fulfilling relationships
  • Freedom from the pain, sorrow, guilt, and shame
  • Control back in your life

It starts with you opening the door to face those pesky negative emotions and past trauma that won’t leave you alone. 

Now, if this sounds overwhelming or scary to do, I promise it won’t always feel like. You don’t have to do this alone. I’m here to help provide a roadmap for how to start tackling this in a controlled, productive, and manageable way.

You’ve been sold a lie. I’m here to tell you the truth.

I’m going to say something that other counselors probably won’t (because they might not totally understand this)…

I know you aren’t afraid of your emotions. 

You’re secretly afraid that no one cares. 

Men deal with some really intense stuff:

  • The huge responsibility of providing for a family
  • Wanting to find meaning in their work
  • Not having mentors or role models that can give them guidance
  • Not having someone to talk to about your relationship struggles because you don’t have someone other than your wife/girlfriend to talk to 

Deep down you just want someone to say, “Wow, that must be tough. But you’re doing a great job. Now tell me more about that…”

But instead you hear, “Don’t complain about it because that’s just part of your job.”

Or even worse, you don’t hear anything at all because you don’t have anyone you feel comfortable enough to go  with these things to  in the first place. 

That’s why I’m here. 

But I’m not your typical counselor. 

I’m not here to just talk about feelings. I’m here to help you make breakthroughs. 

That begins by meeting you where you’re at. Acknowledging the tight spot you’re in and the hard work you’re doing. 

But then getting to work. 

I’d love to be in your corner during this fight against your biggest opponent yet. All you have to do is take the first step and reach out.

Every man deserves to live to his full potential. I’m here to provide you that allowance and space to learn how to do so. Life requires you to feel things to truly experience it. Fighting back from the adversity you’re facing is possible, and you no longer have to do it alone. Reach out today – call me at 971-319-1613 or email me at joey@sparksflycounseling.com.

Wondering what happens after you reach out?

The first step is calling or emailing me. I promise to respond to set up a consultation call to explore if we both believe we’re a good fit to start working together.  

Second step, after all the paperwork stuff is done, is we meet virtually via telehealth. During our sessions we don’t wallow in emotions, sing Kumbaya, or pass any judgment on what you’re facing. We start to build a relationship where in turn you start to build rapport and trust me. Then the real magic starts to happen. 

Third step, we start getting to work. You share the muck you’re facing and I meet you with understanding, insight, and direction on how to work through it. You’re given tools and an action plan to follow and use to start chipping away at the muck. Then overtime if you put in the work, you notice your life change and improve. You start to beat this opponent. 

Finally, you come to a place where you no longer need my help regularly. I’ve helped fill up your toolbox with tools to manage life more efficiently and communicate your needs more effectively with those in your life. You and I part ways, knowing if you need my help again, as long as I’m still seeing clients, I’m here for you. 

Reach out today – call me at 971-319-1613 or email me at joey@sparksflycounseling.com. I can’t wait to be in your corner helping you out.